The Psychology of Love
Counselling Skills Training with Nishant Matthews
2010-2011, start: September 2010
Inside the familiar world of Personality, there is another world, the world of Being. Here we
see with clear eyes, feel with a tender, strong heart, and think with an open, trusting mind. We recognize the fundamental goodness in our
selves, and we can see that in other people as well. Love is as natural as the sun coming up in the morning. We don’t live in perpetual need of
love, because we freely give love. In fact, we know that deep inside us, we are love.
The Psychology of Love Training recognizes this love as the basic truth in all of us. It also
recognizes that this basic truth has been hidden under the thoughts, feelings, fears, desires, and busyness of our Personality systems. Even
while it is mostly hidden, we also know that our deepest longing is to live the truth of the love that we have inside us.
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How do we come to know the reality of this love?
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How do we feel it? Hear it? Live the truth of it?
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How do we bridge the reality of inner love with our outer personality? How can the reality of love inside us be a strong support for living our lives courageously, creatively, heartfully, and with a good sense of humor?
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How do we live our love in such a way that it supports other people to also know the love inside themselves?
The Training Courses
Part 1: September 10-12, 2010
Psychology of Love—overview of the dynamics of the psyche and Being
a. Recognizing our core of consciousness—True Nature
b. Understanding how we lose contact with our True Nature through the trauma of conditioning
c. Understanding how we learn to dis-identify with our True Nature and identify with the ego shell
d. Ego (personality) is protection for the traumatized self
e. Becoming aware of the True self as a field, not just a series of personality parts
Part 2: November 19-21, 2010
The Friend—learning how to productively relate with yourself and others
a. Understanding and releasing super-ego patterns
b. Transforming difficult emotions like anger, fear, and grief
c. Learning a good relationship between the protective personality and the flow of the soul
d. Finding true support inside yourself for living in a way that is true to yourself
Part 3: January 28-30, 2010
Wholeness—the Skill of the Compassionate Heart
a. Heart presence skills
b. The ability to ground in the present time heart while exploring memory and future
c. The earthed heart
d. The art of compassion: "Whatever I feel must be in others also..."
e. Learning to ground the personal heart in the bigger, impersonal heart
Part 4: March 18-20, 2011
Identity—what it is, what it isn’t, where it comes from, and why we are so addicted to it
A taste of life outside the small, tight borders of identity.
a. Identity investigations
b. Presence
c. Comparing the flow of Presence and Identity
d. Learning to go to the boundaries of Identity
e. "Identity is so small a thing to live in...who would want to do that to themselves?"
Part 5: June 2-6, 2011
The River—the trust that allows life to flow.
"Every river reaches the ocean." (Osho)
a. Every feeling that is allowed to flow will flow in the direction of Love.
b. Connection with the Bigger Field of Love/consciousness
c. Exploring the connection of the personal with the Impersonal
d. Dying and being re-born...on a daily basis
e. The heart skills which can explore into the Flow of Being
These courses will be a valuable training for your own personal living, as well as a time of learning
counseling skills for working with other people. You will learn to work from 3 different positions, to have 3 different points of view available
for your understanding of yourself and other people.
1) Human (Friend)
The ability to relate as a friend. Offering an open-hearted, non-judgmental point of view. As a
friend, we realize we are basically all the same, all of us are in the same boat together and that through the path of friendliness we can learn
how to open the doors into our own Being and the Being of others.
2) Inspiration Place
This is the ability to look at the situation with fresh, clear eyes. To see things as if we are
seeing them for the first time, to discover life and people without carrying so much memory and mind. As we learn the art of discovering, we get
the kind of inspiration that comes "out of the Blue." In learning to trust Inspiration, we come to know the presence of Grace and Impersonal
Love, that we are part of something bigger than just our separate, individual selves, and that this bigger something can also be our best
Friend.
3) Professional
A professional understanding of the psyche as a manifestation of Love and Being. A clear map of how our
psychological systems are organized and how these systems work.
The Training Program Overview
The Psychology of Love is a training program in the art of living in contact with your True
Nature. This training is both to familiarize you with the reality of True Nature, and to give you the skills and understanding to help others
also discover and live in their True Nature.You could call it a training for living in active Compassion.
Participation is open to people who have some experience in working with emotions and the
underlying spiritual dimensions. Please contact the organizers and/or Nishant if you have any questions about your own personal
situation.
The program is designed as an integrated, whole unit. It may be possible to participate in one section at a
time if there is place available, but the most benefit will come from following the entire sequence of development.
Dates:
September 10–12, 2010 The Psychology of Love
November 19–21, 2010 The Friend
January 28-30, 2011
Wholeness
March 18–20,
2011 Identity
June 2–6,
2011 The
River
Location: Riddersviks Gård, Stockholm, Sweden
Route description: Riddersviks Gård is located in Hässelby in
Western Stockholm, 19 km from central Stockholm. A route description will be sent to you after your application has been
registered.
Course fee:
Private participants: 28.330 SEK course fee (5.000 SEK x 4, 8.330 SEK for the last course), vegetarian food and accommodation. VAT (moms)
included.
Companies: 42.500 SEK course fee (7.500 SEK x 4, 12.500 SEK for the last course), vegetarian food and
accommodation. VAT (moms) included.
For additional 250 SEK per module, you are guaranteed a single room.
It is possible to pay for each module separately.
Application: Send your name, address and telephone number
to divine.events [at] telia.com and pay 3.000 SEK application fee (from Sweden) to bankgiro 257-8011, (from outside Sweden) IBAN
SE406000000000024448282, BIC: HANDSESS. Your place is guaranteed only after fully paid registration fee. All fees should be paid 14 days prior to
the start of the course. There is no refund for cancellations less than 1 week before the beginning of the course.
Information: The course language is English. Priority is given to participants
who are registering for the entire sequence. If space is available, it is possible to attend individual courses.
The courses begin at 10 AM on Friday (last course Wednesday) and end Sunday around 5 PM.
More info:
Lisa Edwards, phone +46-(0)8-662 11 94, GSM
+46-(0)73-960 42 80, divine.events [at] telia.com
Recommended reading:
Nishant Matthews: The Friend:
Finding Compassion with Yourself, O-Books, 2010.
For more information on Nishant's book The Friend, please visit The Friend website.
You can watch an interview with Nishant on www.conscious.tv here: |